Do you feel super busy all of the time but with little inner peace, or do you feel super inactive, procrastinating on things you know would move you forward?
This blog describes the ninth of nine attributes of a Loving Self-Advocate (LSA), this one being in the mental/spiritual realm. A LSA is a woman who is holistically balanced, physically, emotionally, mentally and spiritually. She knows her worth and how to get her needs met in a healthy way.
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To read more about the other attributes, see below. Learn how to move away from the extremes and move towards a holistic, balanced path.
Foundation for all 9 Loving Self-Advocate attributes
First attribute, Balanced Self-Discipline
Second attribute, Prosperity Mindset
Third attribute, Balanced & Organized
Fourth attribute, Humble & Kind
Fifth attribute, Taking Responsibility in a Healthy Way
Sixth attribute, Honoring Your Truth
Seventh Attribute, Honoring Your Worth
Eighth Attribute, Showing Your Love
Have you ever had the thought, “I try SO hard. I check all the boxes on what I should be doing to be successful, and yet I’m not. Or if I am, I’m not happy or fulfilled. What’s wrong with me?”
Or have you felt, “I’m lazy. I am not motivated to be successful, and I don’t know why. I like the IDEA of being happy and successful, but my actions sure don’t show it.”
Both ways of being feel like a struggle, treading up a steep hill with a thousand pound bag of bricks across your back.
Both lifestyles dampen your connection to the Unknown, leaving you feeling unsupported and unmoored. This pessimistic view in your bones that something feels “off” affects your ability to take creative action.
The effort feels hard, imbalanced between your exertion and your reward.. Your life feels like all work and no play if you have a workaholic tendency. Or it feels like all play but little joy, because you’re letting yourself down by under-performing.
Not taking balanced, creative action feels like self-betrayal, like you aren’t living your best life.
Life feels like you’re living in low grade anxiety, trauma lurking below the surface at all times…because in fact it is. Hidden trauma is stored in your cells, and you know it’s there when you feel overwhelmed, heavy emotionally, sluggish. What triggers the trauma? Stress.
Staying hyper busy or not busy enough is stressful. Worse than that, you don’t even know you are stressed because stress feels normal to your body, like water feels to a fish, because you’ve gotten used to it.
Taking balanced, creative action makes you feel alive, versus reacting to life at each turn.
Do you resonate with any of the above? You probably feel like you need to slow down and take an inventory of your life. Reassess your priorities. Keep reading for tips on how to find balanced, creative action.
Do you resonate with any of the above? If so, you may need to build in some daily structure and discipline and begin taking small, imperfect steps toward one goal. Continue to read on for ways to rein in that wily EGO.
I let my hair down, relax and create with passion and purpose, not the demand to be perfect. This is so much more fun!
I stay focused and take one step at a time, making slow, easy progress because I’m being patient with myself.
I drain the dirty water and get fresh, a/k/a forgive myself. I am always OK. Making an error in judgment does not mean that I am bad, wrong, or a mistake.
I realize that not everyone feels the same way that I do about my passion for (health, finances, business, relationships, etc.). I stay sufficiently grounded to effectively communicate my passion without turning others off.
I write down my feelings daily to stay in touch with my inner state as it dictates everything.
I seek excellence in those things that matter most to me. This is not the same as perfectionism which is fear-motivated. It means I bring my A game to things I’m already good at. I improve upon my natural gifts and talents.
“It’s OK. I can do this!”; “I deserve to be honored, cherished and respected. I AM worthy and enough!”; “What if I acted as if I AM enough today?”; “What if I suspended my doubts and insecurities just for today?”; “Up until now I’ve doubted myself, but more and more every day, I see my value and gifts that I bring to this world.”
To stay on this positive frequency channel, I keep a daily gratitude journal.
I implement a replenishing self-care routine that honors my values, grounds me, gives me space to be alone with my thoughts and feelings, and allows me to connect with my body, mind, spirit, and soul.
I meditate 5-15 minutes daily or more. I started small and worked my way up to 15 minutes of daily meditation. The main thing is that I sit or lie down and connect to my body. No perfection allowed.
I breathe deeply when stressed.
Each day I pray to a Higher Power of my understanding. I ask for the willingness and the ability to let go of the need to be right and in control and to surrender to God’s will for me. I humbly realize that I’m not the one in charge here. This is God’s party, as my friend, Judy, likes to say.
By doing this, I feel like I can breathe a sigh of relief and just let go.
After taking the above quizzes and seeing how a Loving Self Advocate takes balanced, creative action, do you have some ideas on how to do the same? Perhaps it’s time to tell a new story about what’s been going on for you.
Coming from this new place of being a Loving Self Advocate, write down one intention that you’d like to see happen in your life that will completely upgrade your quality of life.
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