george grombacher 0:00
Hey what’s this George G and the time is right, welcome today’s guest strong, powerful Adam Gilbert. Adam, are you ready to do this?
Unknown Speaker 0:22
I’m ready to do this. All right, let’s
george grombacher 0:24
go. Adam is the owner and chief body tutor at my body tutor.com Their organization offering daily and personal accountability for helping people to lead happy and healthy lives. Now tell us a little about your personal life’s more about your work, why you do what you do?
Unknown Speaker 0:42
Yeah, I’m a father of two boys, Zachary and Asher. I’m the founder of my body tutor. We’re a company that helps people devise diet and exercise plans. And then we help them stick with it through daily support daily coaching, daily guidance and daily accountability. I do do because health and fitness is been a passion of mine for a very long time when I was younger, my father, but I saw him have a heart attack shortly thereafter, he had triple bypass surgery. And then later on that year, he was diagnosed with multiple sclerosis. So seeing him deteriorate mentally and physically, throughout the years, until he passed away, was obviously really hard. So I learned firsthand that health is true wealth, that without health, you really have nothing. So I’ve made it my mission to help others live a healthier and fitter life. And that’s that’s my life’s work.
george grombacher 1:36
Nice. I certainly appreciate that. Sorry about, sorry about your dad. Health is wealth, I work. And we were talking about this before we got on the floor, we hit record that I work in personal finance. And you know, I think that if we’re not healthy, then you can have all the money in the world. And it’s not just not going to matter. And we’re also talking about our kids, you’ve got two boys, I’ve got two boys and the responsibility of raising nice young human beings and one day good men. It’s it’s, it’s it’s a big one. And there’s certainly it’s fascinating. Kids have their own personalities, and they come out kind of the way that they are. So there’s nature, that’s big part of it. And there’s also nurture. How does that play in from, from a physiology physiological standpoint? What if there’s percentages or thoughts on just my genetics gave me this, but then my behaviors gave me that?
Unknown Speaker 2:34
Yeah, I mean, it’s hard to say percentages, but I would say, I think a lot of people think that their genetics are a, their destiny. But your behaviors and habits really control a lot. I mean, I’ve seen it time after time where people come to us, and they think they’re destined to be overweight, or they’re destined to have, you know, some fat on their stomach, or high cholesterol. And then they worked with us, and were able to change all that right, and what they thought was possible, you know, it completely changes because they realized that behaviors and actions can absolutely influence that and change that.
george grombacher 3:14
So I know, and there’s so many parallels between personal finance and having a healthy body and lifestyle. If I think that I’m bad at money, and that I’m just, that’s just if that’s really what I believe that I’m probably not going to be that successful with money. And if I think that I’m destined to be overweight, I mean, I’m probably just not going to be the healthy. So how important is just really making that shift and what my beliefs are.
Unknown Speaker 3:41
Yeah, I mean, mindset is everything, right, you have to believe you can. And I really think that comes down to hope. You know, I think a lot of times, people really get this idea that they’re, they can’t manage their money or make money or, you know, lose weight, or whatever it is, is reinforced, right? Because they attempt something, and then they fail. And then it just reinforces this idea, right? And it’s so important to whatever you do to make sure you feel hopeful. And the good thing is Hope is a formula, right? And it really comes down to three things. Number one is having a clear objective, right? Number two is having a pathway to reach that objective. And number three is you believe that you can actually follow the pathway, right? And so often we start these programs, these diets, whatever it is, for money or fitness, and consciously or subconsciously, we know we can’t stick with it for more than a few weeks. So it’s really imperative that you believe you can stick with it. And then ideally, you’d have some support and coaching and guidance and accountability along the way to make sure you do but you know, it’s really important. You feel like you can stick with it. It should really be a question of I can stick with this no matter what.
george grombacher 4:48
Yeah, it’s just got to fit into our lives. Otherwise, it’s flat out just not gonna work. You could have the most wonderful plan in the world. But if there’s no way I’m gonna do it, then it’s a crappy plan.
Unknown Speaker 5:00
Exactly. And the challenge we face is there’s a part of all of us or many, many of us where we feel like if we can’t go 100% Or all in, then it’s not worth doing anything. So we’re stuck in this perpetual cycle of, well, I can’t go all in, so then I don’t bother, and then you don’t bother. And it’s just reinforcing. You have to accept that, you know, frog versus perfection, baby steps are really, really important. And they lead to where you want to go, you know, because the alternative of trying to 100% or, you know, being perfect, you know, you’re just gonna fail out, you’re just gonna burn out.
george grombacher 5:33
That’s really interesting. I guess to degree I respect when a human being wants to go all in and we want to just run through walls or conquer or whatever. But it’s not a recipe for sustainability. It’s, it’s, it’s, it’s not going to stick. Every time I think about it’s like, how did I gain 20 pounds? Well, I gained it by like, 500 extra calories a month, right? Or 1000 extra calories a month, that that’s that that’s how you gain weight? And that’s probably how you lose it, too.
Unknown Speaker 6:03
Yeah, I mean, the analogy I use is like, you know, if you’re driving from New York to California, you know, it’s tempting to go 100 miles an hour and get there quicker, but you’re likely gonna burn out, you’re likely to get a ticket, you’re likely just, you know, your car’s not going to handle that.
george grombacher 6:16
So setting the appropriate objective, or I don’t know if that’s the right term or not. Walk me through that a little bit. Maybe it’s expectations. It’s my objective, is it? I want to be a healthy person. And then it’s breaking that down.
Unknown Speaker 6:31
Yeah, I think it’s, you know, the more specific you can be the better, right, so whether it’s a weight loss goal, whether it’s a body fat percentage, but the more specific you can be the better always right, you always just like, you know, the analogy, you want to know exactly where you’re going. So the more specific you can be, the better. And then you know, that that’s, that’s most important for sure.
george grombacher 6:50
The way that I it’s like my goal is what I want. And from this is just going back into my world to talk about goals being what I want, my values is how I do things. And then my habits, or rather, I’m screwed on my own thing, goals. What I want values is, is who I am. And then habits are how I do things. So we need to set that objective. There’s probably these days, we can be as as clear as we want in the food that we want to put into our bodies. So I want to hear what your perspective on that is. And then making those right habits or tactics or thinking about that.
Unknown Speaker 7:34
Yeah, well, I’m sorry, what is it? What’s the what’s the
george grombacher 7:38
Chroma? I don’t know, if you think about or talk about values, but I’m sure that some of your clients are, are meat eaters. Some are probably vegan.
Unknown Speaker 7:48
Yeah. Yeah, I mean, they have to align with your values. You know, I think that’s, that’s paramount. Because if they’re not, then you know, you’re obviously not gonna be able to stick with it. You know, so there’s a million ways to lose weight, right? Paleo vegan keto, like, there’s, there’s so many things you can do. But of course, it has to align with your values. You know, and it also has to align with your lifestyle, right, and the reality of your life and you know, what you like and dislike and your non negotiables? I mean, that’s all part of it, for sure.
george grombacher 8:23
And there’s no secret to it? Or, or, or is there a secret to weight loss?
Unknown Speaker 8:29
The only secret is there is no secret. You know, one of my life’s mission is is to dispel this myth that there is a secret, the secret truly is consistency. Right? No one wants to hear that. But it’s it’s truth. Consistency is the key, right? It’s about eating well, which is about 80% of weight loss. It’s about exercise, which is about 20%. And it’s about doing those two things consistently. And if you have trouble staying consistent, then you should get help because it is absolutely life changing. And it’s been my life’s work to figure out why consistency so hard.
george grombacher 9:02
Why is it so hard?
Unknown Speaker 9:05
So number one, the diets we try to follow are not sustainable to begin with, right? We can only follow a cookie diet or shake diet or let us diet or no carb diet for so long. Right? It has to be catered to you it has to be customized to you has to be based on the realities of your life. That’s first and foremost, right? If it’s just simply a cookie cutter approach or eat this don’t eat that approach that’s not taking you into account. Right so has to be catered and customized to us, number one. Number two, most plans really only focus on the food you’re eating right. I call it a food diet, but the only thing changes is the food you’re eating. But it’s the only thing changing is the food you’re eating, you’re not going to change for long term, it’s critical that you change what we have to call your MPH and for mindset P for psychology, nature habits, because we actually change your mindset psychology and habits when you change your relationship with food. It takes willpower out of the equation. Right? If you think back to last I tried. Typically day one is easier than day. 20 right but day 20 You’re hanging over the skin your teeth you can’t say You can anymore, and you eventually have heard about your old ways. But we actually change your mindset, your psychology, your habits, your relationship with food, the way you think and react to food, it really does get easier and easier as time goes on. And that’s the idea, you know, and the goal for us is to make my body to the less program, our clients do so much so that when they reach their goal with us, they get lifetime access for a maintenance plan for free. And then last, but not least, in terms of why consistency is so hard, is the lack of accountability. You know, without accountability, it’s too easy making excuses, it’s too easy to rationalize ourselves during after one day. And that’s why we offer it on a daily basis. So it’s the combination of having a plan that’s catered and customized to you really changed your relationship with food, your mindset, your psychology and habits, and then having accountability on a daily basis to put it all together.
george grombacher 10:45
And makes all the sense in the world that it must be individualized and customized to each person, my thinking or relationship and habits with food. It’s probably a lot more common to have negative than it is positive, when you look across the population, and in almost half of us are obese or overweight, or whatever it might be. So I appreciate that. It needs to be customized. But what is if there are like first principles, or things that are really true about food that if we adopted just in general, would probably be beneficial.
Unknown Speaker 11:30
Yeah, I mean, so some of those principles. I mean, listen, the more natural is the better. You know, that’s first and foremost. You know, if it’s packaged, if it’s, you know, created by, you know, with the man made, like, you know, those those types of things where, you know, they’re not the best thing for you, right, and they’re also highly and hyper palatable. And what that means is, you know, when you eat certain combinations of food, you know, just to say, cookies, Oreos. You know, for most people, it’s very hard to just stop at one. And that’s not by accident, right, the whole, you know, Lay’s potato chip commercials back in the day of veggie candy, just one. And it’s a combination of sugar, salt, and fat that overrides our brain’s ability to regulate itself. Essentially, these foods are designed and engineered to be different. So you know, the best thing you can do is try to stay away from that food. And it’s tricky, though, because food is soothing. It’s, you know, it’s a coping mechanism. That’s where emotional eating comes into play. That’s where stress eating comes into play. So you know, really learning how to change your relationship with food, overcome that. I mean, that’s the key to sustainability. Because if you’re just kind of wheeling yourself, you know, day in and day out, eventually, you’re Rebecca always. But in terms of principles, I would say, you know, the more natural it is, the better. You don’t really focus on eating slowly. It’s very common sense. But it’s not common practice, you want to allow yourself to feel how you feel as you’re eating. Because so often we’re you know, we daydream about our favorite foods. And then when we’re actually eating, we just kind of shove it in for a mouse, right? So you will really want to allow yourself to feel how you feel as you’re eating versus just kind of having a big bowl or just shoving food, and then you know, whatever, however many minutes after it is, and you’re like, Oh, I’m so stop. Right. So now savor the flavor. Pretend you’re a food critic, you really want to taste and experience and appreciate the flavor, the experience, etc.
george grombacher 13:28
Nice, the love that pretend you’re a food critic, I think that’s a good, that’s a cool way to look at it. You know, I just eating whole foods. And not necessarily not, not from the grocery store chain, which I’m sure is is wonderful, but just eating whole foods that are processed, that aren’t full of preservatives, and there’s a whole million books and podcasts on on what that really means. But you like you broke it down really nicely. And part of me always says, Well, you just can’t eat that stuff. And then I come back to reality and think, Well, I can’t white knuckle it. And that’s probably not going to be sustainable. So I just do do what Adam just described, which is change my thinking and my mentality about this in my habits. So, but it is a lot, because we’ve got society telling us one thing, and the food tastes so good. And it’s and it’s easy, and we’re all very, very, very busy. And for me, I think that that’s where your model of of having this daily accountability plays such a massive, massive role in helping people to be successful. So I’d love to hear more about that.
Unknown Speaker 14:38
Yeah, thanks. I mean, you know, I think, you know, one of our core philosophies is we want our clients to be fit and happy, not fit and miserable. So to never enjoy your favorite food again, you know, for me, you know, to never have pizza or ice cream to my kids. Like that’s just not sustainable or desire. Right? But there’s a difference between having that versus you know, coming home or during a long day, you know, just going to the pantry and grabbing a bag of chips, right? One is planned, intentional, whereas the other one is impulsive, right, and you’re using the food versus enjoying the food. So that’s a big part of our philosophy is we want our clients to be fit and happy, and not fit and miserable. And, you know, part of what we help our clients to is discipled when it’s really worth it, right. And that’s so important because to me, you know, when you say never that immediately like, it’s like never that that’s just that’s not sustainable. Right? It’s not about never, it’s maybe less, it’s about, you know, more of something else. But it’s never it’s never never.
george grombacher 15:39
Yeah, that makes sense. In terms of other things that bring human beings immense joy, like alcohol and cannabis, how does that how does that play in?
Unknown Speaker 15:52
I mean, same thing, right? I think, you know, everyone has a vise, everyone has a coping mechanism. If alcohol is your thing, if cannabis is your thing, you know, so be it, but you have to just balance it, right? And it’s important to, you know, figure out how to fit it into your lifestyle. You know, one of the things we work with our clients on is their non negotiables. Right, so for some people, you know, for me, it’s pizza, for me, it’s hamburgers, it’s ice cream, like, those are like my three favorite things food wise, and I and I pick those into my plan, right? For some people, it’s having a glass of wine or having a drink, if those are absolutely non negotiables, then we help you fit it in, if cannabis is, you know, then we help you fit it in. You know, it really just depends what you want. But I think it’s smart and wise to decide your non negotiables and then work from there. Because if you’re, you know, to what we talked about earlier, you know, if you’re starting off with alright, I must, you know, remove these favorite things, then, like that’s just not gonna work long term.
george grombacher 16:55
Yeah, it’s probably not gonna fit. So what does what does an engagement with my buddy Twitter look like? There’s probably a good amount of work that’s done on the front end.
Unknown Speaker 17:06
Yeah, so when a client signs up, they fill out a questionnaire. Based on that questionnaire I personally match and one of our coaches, we have an incredible team of coaches, we’ve got 75 coaches on their own, you know, amazing what they do. They’re all, you know, certified health coaches that comes with an extensive experience. So we pair them with one of our coaches, the coach reaches out to the client, they have an initial phone consultation, on that call, they’ll talk to the client about their current diet, their current exercise, if they’re doing anything. Most importantly, they create a plan for the client. Right. So they’ll talk about the diet, the exercise, most importantly, again, they create the plan, but even more, so they make sure the client feels comfortable with it. Because as we talked about, if the client doesn’t feel comfortable, then you know, we’re, we’re, we’re doomed for failure from the start. And then the real magic happens, though, then after that phone call each day, the client enters what they ate, what they do for exercise, if it was an exercise that ensure easy to use mobile app or website, and then everyday after their very own coach is running back with personalized feedback, suggestions and encouragement. So the fact that we’re in communication with our clients every single day, guiding them, supporting them, coaching them, holding them accountable is the key. So again, you know, we not only tell our clients what to do, but we’re making sure they’re actually doing it day in and day out. And when there’s inevitable challenges, all sorts of things come up, we help them work through it.
george grombacher 18:29
Got it. The inevitable challenges that will come up and stopping people from pulling the ripcord or from just throwing the baby out the bathwater and saying forget the whole thing. I’m just gonna go back to what I was doing before because that’s not helping anybody.
Unknown Speaker 18:48
No, and you know, that’s that’s a big part of it, right? This all or nothing mentality, self sabotage. There’s all sorts of mental roadblocks that we help our clients overcome, because, sure, there’s capital roadblocks, right. It could be the holidays, birthday and anniversary, whatever might be, you know, those are tactical roadblocks that you can you don’t have a clear cut plan and you can navigate, but there’s a lot of mental roadblocks, those are the hardest to overcome. Right. And again, it’s whether it’s fear of failure, if your stats for some people, which is surprising, and counterintuitive. All or nothing thinking self sabotage, those are the types of things that you really need to overcome for sustainable success. Success.
george grombacher 19:23
Yeah, I love it. I love a good framework, Adam. And that’s certainly something that you have and the reality that health is wealth. And as we get older, it becomes more and more important to be paying attention to this stuff and more mindful of it. setting ourselves up and positioning ourselves for success, I think is such a key thing. So thank you so much for coming back on the show. Where can people learn more about you and how can they engage with my body tutor?
Unknown Speaker 19:54
Yeah, I appreciate you having me. You know, I mean, it’s, you know, we talked about, you know, you help people with money. I mean, you know, it’s something I think about all the time knows, you know, success at the expense of your health is not really success. And, you know, people work so hard for their money and or their families. And it’s like, you know, a lot of people say it’s like, I would die for my family. It’s like, cool. Would you be healthy for your family? You know, I’m just very passionate about that, because so many people work so hard. And it’s like, what’s the point of it? Right? You know, health. Good health is an amplifier. And bad health can really detract from your experience of life. So health is the ultimate booster it really is. So, I appreciate you having me. You can find me at my body zero.com You can find me on all the socials Instagram, Twitter, Tiktok, Facebook, my body tutor as well. We’d love to connect with you. If you’re interested in learning more about the program. I’m happy to chat with you personally. Just reach out to me. I’m always available.
george grombacher 20:51
Excellent. If you enjoyed the punches, I did show them your appreciation and share today’s show with a friend who also appreciates good ideas, go to my body tutor t u t o r.com and see if this is a fit for you. That’s going to help you get to where you want to go and find them on social media as well. I’ll link all of those in the notes of the show. Thanks. Good, Adam. Thank you so much. And until next time, remember, do your part by doing your best
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